In defense of Catherine Greig
Last week in the Boston Globe, I read a short but sweet letter about Catherine Greig, loyal companion to James “Whitey” Bulger. Because the Globe decided to charge money to access their website, I cannot link you to it, but I think it’s worth re-posting:
“Let Catherine Greig go. She followed James “Whitey” Bulger, and stayed with him come hell or high water. She didn’t abandon him. Who are we to judge a woman’s heart? She was faithful, so if she’s being prosecuted in order to make an example of her, she is an example – an example of good old-fashioned dedication to the man you love, and a role model for brave women who choose a man and see in him what others don’t and stand by him to the end.”
Jean Pepper, Dover, N.H.
I love this letter, and I agree with the idea behind it. Yes, Bulger has a lot of haters, to say the least, which is understandable given his reputation and the crimes he is accused of committing. And Greig does as well because of her association with Bulger and the assistance she provided him while on the lam. In fact, subsequent letters appeared in the Globe, expressing “dismay” at Greig’s “subservient attitude” and saying that David Kaczynski, the brother of “Unabomber” Theodore Kaczynski who turned him in to the FBI, is a better role model.
It is obvious why people consider it virtuous to turn a suspect in to police, even when the suspect is your brother or your longtime significant other. But as a person who is drawn to underdogs, to unpopular views, and to people that most of society likes to hate on, I also see virtue in what Greig did. Loyalty is one of the highest virtues, and loyalty, to me, means staying true to yourself, true to your principles, your words, and what you believe in, and true to your friends, relatives, romantic partners, and whoever you have chosen to support. Many people define faithfulness in a romantic relationship as – to put it bluntly – having sex with only one person. And far too many women live up to this definition, while constantly nagging their husbands, complaining about them to friends, and throwing them under the bus if they fail to live up to society’s sexist expectations of holidays that they should remember, household tasks they should perform, things they should pay for, and gifts that they should buy. It is this attitude that is not only subservient, but actually disloyal. True loyalty and true faithfulness mean that you love someone for who they are, no matter what society thinks. Just like another couple that I admire, Anne Sinclair and Dominique Strauss-Kahn, this also seems to be true of Greig and Bulger.
In a way, Greig did stand up for what is right. There are plenty of people, including the U.S. Department of Justice, working to punish Bulger for his (alleged) deeds. Greig showed courage by helping and standing up for a man whom she must see some good in, even when the rest of the world feels exactly the opposite. There is nothing subservient about that.
